A Parent Reset

A note to volleyball club directors

A Parent Reset

Before club season begins.

Remember the voices? The calls, the emails, the social media posts. Most parents are simply trying to do what's best for their daughter. But the season can bring questions and pressures neither of them anticipated. That's why I wrote They Made the Team… Now What?—to give families a broader perspective before the season gets underway.

John Dillard · Retired volleyball coach, former club director and volleyball dad

They Made the Team… Now What? book cover

Making the team is only the beginning.

The challenges aren't all on the court. Sometimes they're about confidence, friendships, expectations and a parent wondering how to help.

The book offers perspectives on situations that can shape a season. It isn't a rulebook for parents. It's a chance to see more of what their daughter may be experiencing—and consider how best to support her.

Imagine starting your season this way.

You hand every family a copy of They Made the Team… Now What? at your first parent meeting or when uniforms are distributed. Your coaches receive copies, too.

Now, when questions about playing time, roles, expectations, or team politics arise, families and coaches have something in common to refer to.

It won't eliminate difficult conversations, but it may help everyone approach them with a little more understanding.

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Table of Contents

Introduction · My Story

  1. 01They Made the Team... Now What?
  2. 02Why We Overthink Everything
  3. 03The Privilege of the Journey
  4. 04It’s Your Money, What’s Your Goal?
  5. 05Welcome to the Machine
  6. 06What’s Your Role in All This?
  7. 07The Car Ride Home
  8. 08The Tax Collection
  9. 09A Nod from the Bleachers
  10. 10How Good Is Your Player?
  11. 11Is She Coachable?
  12. 12Is She a Competitor?
  13. 13What Are Her Challenges?
  14. 14Finding Where Your Daughter Belongs
  15. 15She Thinks She is Better Than She is…
  16. 16When She’s Invisible
  17. 17The Star Player
  18. 18Coming Back From Injury
  19. 19High School vs Club
  20. 20Team Politics: The Game Before the Game
  21. 21The Coach is also the Parent
  22. 22Chemistry Issues: What’s Really Going On
  23. 23Bleacher Chemistry
  24. 24The Coach
  25. 25Changing Clubs
  26. 26The Social Media Trap
  27. 27The Recruiting Dream
  28. 28Burnout: When the Fire Goes Out
  29. 29Character Over Championship
  30. 30When it All Ends
  31. 31What They Will Take With Them

Epilogue: The Gift You Gave